Thursday, April 16, 2015

Just a rough patch.

Things have been pretty stressful lately and I have been having a lot of anxiety that follows me everywhere because of it, it really has been tough.
During the week of spring break my youngest had a very scary health emergency that turned into a 911 call and a ride in an ambulance to the Children's Hospital. It was so awful, but thankfully it turned out okay and she is just fine now. I don't know what I would do without her, or if anything happened any of my children. Think I might have a little post traumatic stress from the event.

I also have been struggling with my own health issues. I have not felt well in the last three years, it is getting worse, and harder for me to deal with. Just trying to make it through the day is not how I want to live anymore. My energy level is so low it has really been a struggle to get the everyday things taken care of and by the time I pick my son up in the afternoon from school I am feeling really terrible. This has left me feeling really depressed.  I can not find the energy to do the things that have always made me happy, but mostly I am sad because I can't be the kind of mom I want to be to my children. The last doctor I saw said my immune system was attacking my thyroid and there was nothing he could do for me until my thyroid was so badly damaged that I would be put on thyroid meds for the rest of my life. No help at all. This was almost a year ago. I have been feeling pretty helpless ever since trying to learn as much as I can on my own and try to reverse the auto-immune attack on my thyroid. Which interestingly enough is caused by chronic stress.
Anxiety can be a sign that your thyroid is over active or hyperthyroid, but mine is hypothyroid, not working well enough. I have heard that people with my condition can flip from on to the other. I wish I could blame all my anxiety on that, then I wouldn't feel like I was going crazy. I really need to find a doctor who is willing to help me. Trying to tough this out on my own is a very hopeless feeling.

Another HUGE stress on our plate right now is finding a new place to live. Back in February when our new upstairs neighbors moved in our landlords gave us a "heads up" or so they call it, that we need to find a new place to live by this summer. They say they are planning to sell the house, but we have heard that story before. We have lived in this house for 11years this summer. Don't get me wrong the situation is less than ideal, we have outgrown this place for sure. My husband and I currently share our bedroom with our two youngest children, which worked when he was traveling all the time and I was here alone with the kids. It felt more safe to have them in the same room with me at night. My son is at the age where he should have his own space and a place to play with his friends. In the last several months I have searched for apartments on a pretty much daily basis and have literally had panic attacks realizing there is nothing we can afford, not only in our neighborhood, but in the city in general. Rent is out of this world crazy expensive here in the city, it has gone up so much in the last 10 years since we have moved that the new folks who moved into the apartment upstairs(where we lived for 8 years) are paying double what we paid to live there.
So this leaves me feeling really really stressed and totally uprooted. It has been impossible to make plans until we find out where we are going to be living. I have already come to terms with the fact that our current neighborhood is out of the question unless we win the lottery in the next month.  I don't know where my children will be going to school next year and all normal yearly planning is on hold. It is terrifying because this move will impact my children so much. When you live paycheck to paycheck getting the money saved to move is nearly impossible. We were counting on our tax return to fund our move and finding out we didn't get a tax return this year was a major blow. So it is pretty much, need to move, very soon, can not afford anything in this city, have no idea where we are going to go and time is running out. ACK!!! Amazingly. stressful.
I was thinking that if we have to move to a new city anyway,then why not just move closer to the rest of our family in Wisconsin. I have not been able to visit my brothers in 7 years! That is way too long.
But moving across the country is not something you can do at the drop of a hat. This is something we would have had to save for years to do. We need to arrange for new jobs, new schools and a new home. My eldest is moving into High School this next year so I feel now would be a good transition time as she would be moving to a new school anyway. Maybe we could try and tough it out here for another 4 years, but that honestly does not sound that fun to me. I think it would be a better quality of life for all of us to get a fresh start somewhere more affordable.
Like I said, a lot of stress and I don't even know where to start to tackle these obstacles. 
We need a miracle and some answers very soon.  I want nothing more than a stable home for my family wherever that may be. 
Just a rough patch in life right now, a big one.

1 comment:

Cassandra :D said...

Awww, I am so sorry! That must be so hard for you guys. I hate moving, and we are thinking of moving next year. It's so expensive!

It's a really good time before Sophie starts high school. I think she'd be really bummed to start high school, only to have to move next summer.

Best of luck finding a new place, and a new city/town.